eliminate and understand social anxiety Triggers

What does anxiety feels like

When attempting to do something or trying to rest, our hearts may race, we may feel fidgety or light-headed, and we might sweat or feel like our body’s temperature is uncomfortably rising or high. While experiencing this, our voice may quiver when speaking, we may find it difficult to think straight, respond to questions and people how we’d like, or struggle focusing on whatever we’re doing at the moment. These symptoms may compel us to avoid situations or people we think will trigger these symptoms in us.

What is social anxiety?

From the Anxiety and Depression Association of America: “The defining feature of social anxiety disorder, also called social phobia, is intense anxiety or fear of being judged, negatively evaluated, or rejected in a social or performance situation. People with social anxiety disorder may worry about acting or appearing visibly anxious (e.g., blushing, stumbling over words), or being viewed as stupid, awkward, or boring. As a result, they often avoid social or performance situations, and when a situation cannot be avoided, they experience significant anxiety and distress. Many people with social anxiety disorder also experience strong physical symptoms, such as a rapid heart rate, nausea, and sweating, and may experience full-blown attacks when confronting a feared situation. Although they recognize that their fear is excessive and unreasonable, people with social anxiety disorder often feel powerless against their anxiety.

Social anxiety disorder can wreak havoc on the lives of those who suffer from it. For example, individuals may decline a job opportunity that requires frequent interaction with new people or avoid going out to eat with friends due to a fear that their hands will shake when eating or drinking. Symptoms may be so extreme that they disrupt daily life and can interfere significantly with daily routines, occupational performance, or social life, making it difficult to complete school, interview and get a job, and have friendships and romantic relationships. People with social anxiety disorder are also at an increased risk for developing major depressive disorder and alcohol use disorders. 

Despite the availability of effective treatments, fewer than 5% of people of with social anxiety disorder seek treatment in the year following initial onset and more than a third of people report symptoms for 10 or more years before seeking help.

My anxiety struggle inspired me to develop the ability to identify and eliminate anxiety triggers

In 2016, I recognized I had social anxiety after realizing I struggled to express myself without fearing a self-conscious1 “attack” or an unpleasant fight or flight trigger. This challenge made me hesitant to build romantic and personal relationships that would require me to share my feelings and talk about intimate things about myself (ex: talking about family, challenges and experiences in my past, etc).

I was not fond of the amount of anxiety I felt on a regular basis and have been on a personal mission since 2016 to eliminate my anxiety and its impact on the pursuit of my goals. Since 2016, I’ve studied and experimented with depth psychology, CBT, inner child work, amino acid therapy, mental health herbs, and nutritional psychiatry. I’ve now reached a point where I can identify a trigger, why it triggered me, and neutralize the trigger so it’ll no longer make me anxious in the future. I call this, emotional mastery. I use this capability to reduce the number of things that make me anxious for myself and others.

Steps I took and recommend to learn how to identify and eliminate anxiety triggers

These are the steps I took to be able to identify an anxiety trigger, figure out why it triggered me, and neutralize the trigger so it’ll no longer make me anxious in the future.

Understand the psychological cause of anxiety

My short free book, The Root Cause of Anxiety Triggers, teaches you this. Note: I’m not referring to physiological causes of anxiety like low blood sugar.

Eliminate your known anxiety triggers (aka deprogramming yourself)

You may go long periods of time without feeling anxiety and then bam, you get anxious out of nowhere. Because you have the skill to eliminate anxiety triggers, you can neutralize what triggered you and prevent it from triggering you in the future. In other cases, you may be able to foreshadow what will trigger you before an event and use your skills to neutralize those triggers before the event happens.

I can help you every step of the way

Note: I think it’s sensible to want to be liked, respected, non-judged, and able to act properly and say the right things in social settings. Unless one is perfect, it may be difficult to always reach a personal social standard one sets. The inability to accept that imperfection may be a source of the fear and anxiety one experiences in social settings.

Addressing social anxiety will likely reduce your overall anxiety!

The worldviews and beliefs that fuel social anxiety often fuel anxiety in general which is why addressing social anxiety can reduce overall anxiety.

Anxiety thought leadership

  1. By self-conscious I mean worrisome thoughts about how I’m being perceived like, “Do I look ok?”, “Do I look anxious?” “Am I making sense?” ↩︎
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