Why does it feel like we can’t control our emotions?
Another way to put this: Why does it feel like anxiety takes over or just happens to us against our will?
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Illustration of how & why we get emotional
Illustration: Before self-reflection – These are a few reasons why a particular person may get anxious Note: The individual may not know they think in this manner and that this way of thinking (these beliefs) can be changed. After self-reflecting on why they get emotional The individual identified and dropped the belief that they should …
Why do we get anxious? Proof included
Using science and a real-life counseling session of mine you’ll see that we get anxious because we unknowingly or knowingly think we should be anxious about whatever we’re anxious about. Note: This article is not speaking on anxiety that has physiological causes like low blood sugar.
June 5 – June 11 Recap: Notable Answers to questions and shared perspectives from me
This post contains questions I’ve answered and perspectives I’ve shared during the week of June 5- June 11. Some of my responses are short while others are more detailed and contain more back and forth engagements.
Topics: Some beliefs that fuel loneliness and the fear of being alone, being a contrarian thinker, risks of relying on lust & attraction for non-platonic relationships
Do you need to be in relationship w/others to emotionally heal or be ok with YOURSELF? I say no and Miley Cyrus seems to agree as well
This post would likely be of interest to: single people uncomfortable with their singleness, people that want to leave a relationship but fear doing so, people that think being in a relationship is “better” than being single….this isn’t an exhaustive list so there may be other audiences interested in this content
How high expectation positions can test the desire of your goals
Some forget that there’s a mental game one likely has to play when pursuing goals I think it’s easy to fixate on building technical skills to improve performance but I’ve seen the dangers of this one-sided strategy in my professional life that I’ll briefly cover. Afterward, I’ll share how I think this often unspoken mental …
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What are emotions?
Concepts discussed: perceptions, emotional mastery Some of us have felt what are described as joy, sadness, shame, fear, and other “emotions.” I never thought twice about emotions until my first work presentation as a software engineer. My body and hands gyrated intensely as my heart raced minutes before speaking and I said to myself, “What’s …
Perception: A reason why we experience performance anxiety which sometimes keeps us from our best
Concepts discussed: emotions Have you ever wondered why you act perfectly fine with people you’re close to and sometimes struggle to be this normal when interacting with a secret admirer or complete strangers? The same social behaviors you flawlessly executed with friends struggled to manifest themselves in a different but similar social situation. This article …
