This is an excerpt from one of Bruce Di Marsico’s lectures, in which he explained how beliefs affect our feelings. This perspective explains what causes our anxiety. Bruce created a form of CBT based on the Socratic dialogue called the Option Method that gives clear insight into what causes our negative emotions like anxiety.
People can get anxious about the same things but each person has their own unique reasons why. The video below illustrates this. The video is inspired by a talk Bruce Di Marsico gave where he used a similar example to demonstrate how beliefs affect and give rise to our emotions. Bruce created the Option Method …
See if this definition I’m putting forward makes sense to you. It’s made sense for me and helped me better understand what people mean when they talk about trauma either personally or generally. Trauma is the worldviews, beliefs, and behaviors we create or develop after an event. Harrison Obiorah I think this definition holds for …
Note: These individuals also believe that all negative emotions are caused by beliefs (often unconscious). There are probably more people that share this perspective but these people come readily to my mind. Marcus Aurelius has stated that it isn’t external things and events that upset us but rather our judgments about those things. I argue …
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Words in bold are questions or responses from readers or people I’ve worked 1on1 with. “What I have learned and observed is emotions have to be accepted and moved on forward from because engaging with thoughts and emotions gives you more of them. What you describe sounds like you try to get rid of all …
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This is a transcript of a counseling session I had to understand why I got anxious before attempting to share an opinion with a group of 3 other guys I had met for the first time at a dinner. The assumption is that you’re aware of the fact that we get anxious about something because …
Barry Neil Kaufman is an emotional intelligence best-selling author who, in my opinion, fantastically answers this in his book Power Dialogues: The Ultimate System for Personal Change. I’ve provided the book excerpts below. Barry Kaufman studied under a psychotherapist named Bruce Di Marsico who put forward the idea that there are certain things we think …
The answer The answer depends on what we mean by this question. Behind this question is the probable desire to prevent ourselves from being triggered when we don’t want to be. It’s a sensible desire that I’ve also shared but can this be achieved overnight? Here’s my point of view: We have a particular way …
Something that is accepted, considered to be true, or held as an opinion. Merriam-Webster Dictionary The word “belief” is just a way to label and describe what we think is true. For example, believing the world is flat means a person thinks that’s true. To disagree with that assertion is to say you don’t think …
