Words in bold are questions or responses from readers or people I’ve worked 1on1 with. “What I have learned and observed is emotions have to be accepted and moved on forward from because engaging with thoughts and emotions gives you more of them. What you describe sounds like you try to get rid of all …
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This is a transcript of a counseling session I had to understand why I got anxious before attempting to share an opinion with a group of 3 other guys I had met for the first time at a dinner. The assumption is that you’re aware of the fact that we get anxious about something because …
Barry Neil Kaufman is an emotional intelligence best-selling author who, in my opinion, fantastically answers this in his book Power Dialogues: The Ultimate System for Personal Change. I’ve provided the book excerpts below. Barry Kaufman studied under a psychotherapist named Bruce Di Marsico who put forward the idea that there are certain things we think …
The answer The answer depends on what we mean by this question. Behind this question is the probable desire to prevent ourselves from being triggered when we don’t want to be. It’s a sensible desire that I’ve also shared but can this be achieved overnight? Here’s my point of view: We have a particular way …
Something that is accepted, considered to be true, or held as an opinion. Merriam-Webster Dictionary The word “belief” is just a way to label and describe what we think is true. For example, believing the world is flat means a person thinks that’s true. To disagree with that assertion is to say you don’t think …
Our brains have the ability to store information Neuroscience has shown that our brains have the ability to store information. For example, if we’ve never seen a tennis ball, we may be unable to identify one. However, after learning what a tennis ball is, we’ll be able to recognize tennis balls for the rest of …
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In cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), which is an evidence-based therapeutic modality for reducing anxiety, core beliefs are thought to underlie automatic thoughts. Interestingly, I’d argue that beliefs are thoughts we’ve decided to “install” in our brains to help us process life. Julie Simmons, a licensed therapist, explains this point below: As such, beliefs are thoughts …
Another way to put this: Why does it feel like anxiety takes over or just happens to us against our will?
Illustration: Before self-reflection – These are a few reasons why a particular person may get anxious Note: The individual may not know they think in this manner and that this way of thinking (these beliefs) can be changed. After self-reflecting on why they get emotional The individual identified and dropped the belief that they should …
Using science and a real-life counseling session of mine you’ll see that we get anxious because we unknowingly or knowingly think we should be anxious about whatever we’re anxious about. Note: This article is not speaking on anxiety that has physiological causes like low blood sugar.
