social-anxiety

Questions and answers about the cause of anxiety

Words in bold are questions or responses from readers or people I’ve worked 1on1 with. “What I have learned and observed is emotions have to be accepted and moved on forward from because engaging with thoughts and emotions gives you more of them. What you describe sounds like you try to get rid of all …

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Full Counseling session transcript – why I got anxious before speaking up in a group of 3 guys

This is a transcript of a counseling session I had to understand why I got anxious before attempting to share an opinion with a group of 3 other guys I had met for the first time at a dinner. The assumption is that you’re aware of the fact that we get anxious about something because …

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How we acquire OUr beliefs

Barry Neil Kaufman is an emotional intelligence best-selling author who, in my opinion, fantastically answers how we acquire beliefs from outside entities and create some of our own in his book Power Dialogues: The Ultimate System for Personal Change. I’ve provided the book excerpts below. Barry Kaufman studied under a psychotherapist named Bruce Di Marsico …

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Can we get rid of all our anxiety at once?

The answer The answer depends on what we mean by this question. Behind this question is the probable desire to prevent ourselves from being triggered when we don’t want to be. It’s a sensible desire that I’ve also shared but can this be achieved overnight? Here’s my point of view: We have a particular way …

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What is a belief?

Something that is accepted, considered to be true, or held as an opinion. Merriam-Webster Dictionary The word “belief” is just a way to label and describe what we think is true. For example, believing the world is flat means a person thinks that’s true. To disagree with that assertion is to say you don’t think …

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Why anxiety is caused by information in our brains

Our brains have the ability to store information Neuroscience has shown that our brains have the ability to store information. For example, if we’ve never seen a tennis ball, we may be unable to identify one. However, after learning what a tennis ball is, we’ll be able to recognize tennis balls for the rest of …

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Where do our thoughts come from?

In cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), which is an evidence-based therapeutic modality for reducing anxiety, core beliefs are thought to underlie automatic thoughts. Interestingly, I’d argue that beliefs are thoughts we’ve decided to “install” in our brains to help us process life. Julie Simmons, a licensed therapist, explains this point below: As such, beliefs are thoughts …

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Illustration of how & why we get emotional

Illustration: Before self-reflection – These are a few reasons why a particular person may get anxious Note: The individual may not know they think in this manner and that this way of thinking (these beliefs) can be changed.   After self-reflecting on why they get emotional  The individual identified and dropped the belief that they should …

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Why do we get anxious? Proof included

It may sound nonsensical or controversial, but I’ll prove with a real-life counseling session of mine–used throughout this article–that we get anxious because we unknowingly or knowingly think we should be anxious about whatever we’re anxious about. Note: This article is not speaking on anxiety that has physiological causes like low blood sugar.

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